"It takes courage to grow up and be who you really are."
- E.E. Cummings
I cannot even begin to tell you how crazy September was. It was a month of heartaches, tears, countless tossings-and-turnings in bed, sad realizations, and moving on; a month of trying things for the first time, appreciating the now; making new friendships, and going on spontaneous night outs; a month of changes, lessons learned, and moments that make you go "I'm-so-glad-I-dodged-that-bullet"; a month of accepting challenges, taking things to the next level, and most importantly, growing up and discovering who you really are.
Though bittersweet, I will always remember my September.
Here are five things I learned this month, and hopefully, you'll also learn a thing or two from me :)
1. Sometimes, it's okay not to be okay.
Don't keep it all to yourself. More importantly, don't lie to yourself about how you feel. As Sigmund Freud once said, "Unexpressed emotions will never die. They are buried alive and will come forth later in uglier ways."
It's okay to fail. It's okay to get hurt. It's okay to feel sad. Don't get mad at yourself for being human.
(See also: Because Sometimes, Going To The Village Park At 5AM To Declutter Your Life Is The Best Thing To Do.)
2. Being single isn't a big deal.
I used to be that type of girl who was always in a relationship; the dependent, damsel-in-distress who just needed a boyfriend. Well, surprise, surprise: being single isn't a bad thing after all. You get time alone to think and reflect and do things on your own. The best part? You get to focus on your priorities and you also get to know yourself 30x better.
Time alone is time to grow. Cherish it. Make the most out of it. If a man or woman comes along, then that's good. But if no one comes, you'll still be fine. :)
3. It's nice having someone be there for you. But there are some moments when you have to do things by yourself.
Sometimes, you have to watch that movie alone. Sometimes, you have to open the door for yourself. Sometimes, you have to learn how to ride solo. Sometimes, you have to be your own source of strength. And you'll thank yourself for being so.
4. Don't rush into things.
Don't rush love, especially. Live in the now.
As the saying goes, "Don't look for love. Quietly give it away and let it find you back."
5. Don't get fooled by grand gestures; it's the little things that matter most.
Because the little things are the sincerest ones.
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